“So this is the mate
you have for me. What could I have possibly done to deserve this?
Whatever it was, I repent!”
This is not gender
specific. Believe me, women also have this complaint. There is
invariably an attempt to bargain at this point. There is an attempt
to justify breaking the vow to have and to hold from this day forward
until death do us part. If a deal cannot be struck with God, who is
far too inclined to remain silent on this matter, the supplicant is
likely to view the silence as an indication that the match was made
in some place other than heaven. In which case you might see an
epitaph similar to the actual one I quote below:
“When the children of
Israel prayed for food
God sent them manna.
When old Clark Wallace
prayed for a wife
Satan sent him Anna.”
In all likelihood
neither God nor Satan had anything to do with making the match. Only
in the court of straw dog logic would anyone try to adjudicate such a
matter in regard to God. I might also add that such adjudication
would be futile because God is the judge. In regard to Satan the
verdict would not be rendered until well after the mortal connection
with your spouse has come to an end. Similarly, blaming the
Christian site for a bad match would probably be unavailing. I think
the Christian site is counting on that.
Frankly I do not think
it matters how you find your mate. Life is too complex for
guarantees. Finding the right person helps, but the only way to
improve the odds of a happy marriage is through commitment and
effort. Sometimes even that is not enough and the pain of
dissolution becomes preferable to the unhappiness caused by trying to
maintain the union.
Love and luck to you
all. Marriage is a beautiful thing when it works. That is why
people who have had bad marriages usually try again, and it is why
match-maker sites continue to draw people who are looking for a mate.
First published in macsbackporch.fictionforall.com on Jun 2, 2011
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